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To an admiring—B(l)og?

Say your name.

That’s this week’s Theme at “The Daily Post.” I’d tell you mine, but that’s just the problem. I feel like I’ve been saying it a bit too much lately. Here’s why:

Feeling Froggy

These days I’ve been feeling a bit like the frog in Emily Dickinson’s poem, “I’m Nobody! Who are You?” The poet writes:

How dreary to be somebody!
How public, like a frog
To tell your name the livelong day
To an admiring bog!

You see, since the publication of my new book Joy in Every Moment I’ve been posting to Facebook and tweeting on Twitter so often, that sometimes it feels like I’ve been at it–well–“in every moment”!

Some authors resist the part of the job that entails self-promotion, but I’m not dragging my feet.

Perhaps it’s just that I’m the daughter of a salesman, so I’m okay with approaching strangers with an outstretched hand and offering my wares. You see, my dad recently retired after 60+ years of selling building supplies to contractors on Long Island. Before that he sold Scripto Pens on summer vacations from college. And here’s what he taught me:

Selling isn’t hard work if you believe in your product.

And in this case, I do.

After all, I’m selling nothing less than Joy! And Joy empowers us to live our days consciously, fully, and without regrets.

So, I’m not holding back! I’m going to keep preaching to that bog…or blog as the case may be.

To quote another of Dickinson’s poems:

‘Tis so much joy! ‘Tis so much joy!
If I should fail, what poverty!
And yet, as poor as I,
Have ventured all upon a throw!
Have gained! Yes! Hesitated so—
This side the Victory!

Spread the Joy

If you believe, as I do, that spreading Joy is important, I hope you’ll help me get the word out about Joy in Every Moment. Here’s what you can do:

  • Read the book! If you haven’t already done so, I hope you will consider reading Joy in Every Moment. You can find it online for $10! Retail it’s $12.95. That’s a bargain!
  • Tell your friends about Joy in Every Moment on social media
  • LIKE” my author page on Facebook, or follow me on Twitter (@tziviag) and invite your friends to do the same
  • Review Joy on GoodReadsor Amazon
  • Bring me to your city or town to talk to your book club, yoga community, professional group, local bookstore, or library.

Thank you for helping to make the world a little bit more JOYful!

P.S. Thanks, Dad!

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This Post is a response to “The Daily Post.” Say Your Name

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Joy in the Airport? You must be kidding!

 

Maybe I should have called my book: “Joy in Every Moment: Except for that Moment When You Look at The Departure Status for Your Flight and See the Word…Delayed.”

Joy in (Almost) Every Moment

When I told family and friends that the publisher for my newest book, Joy in Every Moment, was sending me on a book tour, they congratulated me and told me how lucky I am.

But here’s the thing: A book tour means travel, airports, flying, and rental cars. In this case we’re talking 3 cities and 6 flights in 5 days! And I may have written a book about Joy, but I am not a joyful traveller. American AirlinesIn fact, a more honest title for my book would have been: “Joy in Every Moment: Except for that Moment when You Look at The Departure Status for your Flight and See the word…Delayed.”

Forget the present moment. When I travel, I’m calculating time, adding and subtracting minutes, trying to make “Good Time,” and rueing every obstacle that comes between me and an on-time arrival: Traffic, lines of passengers with over-stuffed luggage that won’t fit into overhead compartments, maintenance alerts that keep airplanes grounded on the tarmac, tailwinds…you name it.

But since I was traveling to promote my book about finding joy in every moment, I couldn’t turn into Anxious Nasty Travel Lady muttering at rental car agents who are checking my car in too slowly, or cursing airline agents who deliver the bad news about a missed connecting flight–then admit that I’m on the road to promote a book on finding happiness in the present moment!

So, I texted a friend for advice. She replied: “Read your book!”

Gulp.

Yes, I took my own medicine. Before I left home at 4:30 a.m. to catch my first of six flights in five days I asked myself: “What does mindfulness mean to me today? How will I connect with Joy in airport terminals and on cramped, crowded and/or delayed flights?

Here’s what I came up with:

The Travel To-Do List

I took out my Travel Checklist, and along with to-do items such as “Pack phone charger,” “E-mail hosts,” “Check seat assignments,” I added the imperative to: “Enjoy the Journey.”

Count smiles

Everywhere I went I looked for smiles, and I found them: The whistling airport shuttle driver who brought me from the parking lot to the terminal, the woman cooing to her baby on the check-in line, the baby being coo-ed at, and the man in the business suit laughing as he spoke into his bluetooth as he stepped out of his designer shoes in the security line… each one had a radiant smile. And it’s true. Those grins are contagious.

Only connect

I gave myself a little job for my journey. My self-imposed assignment was to make three meaningful connections with people in the airport. This ended up being the best part of my travels. I made it a point to pause and talk to three people I met along the way. I asked the woman who sold me my souvenir postcards in an airport gift shop where her beautiful accent was from, and she shared a story about growing up in Ethiopia. I asked the TSA agent who checked my license and boarding pass how he was doing, and he told me it had been a tough few days for him. The line was short, so when I asked him why, he told me. Then I got into a conversation with a woman behind me on the security line who turned out to be on her way to a family funeral. The line was long and slow, so I even had time to learn about her work teaching autistic children, and all the little things she does to help them and their parents feel happier. We enjoyed our conversation so much that we barely noticed the line’s glacial movement forward, and by the time we piled our shoes, belts, and 3 ounce bottles of liquids into plastic bins we felt like close friends.

IMG_0528Laughing all the way

The bottom line is this: I have never had such fun traveling–in spite of the fact that on Day 2 of my tour, the battery in my rental car died just as I was about to  head to the airport for my next flight, I encountered several flight delays including one on the tarmac (my least favorite kind) while the plane’s wings were de-iced, and countless other (potential) irritations.

 

P.S.

Oh, and by the way, the book readings and signings were wonderful, too. More on that some other time. Meanwhile, I’ve got to sign off now, so I can book my next trip.

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Bring more JOY into your life wherever you go. My new book helps lead the way!

 

 

 

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The Life-Changing Magic of Deleting My Facebook Pages

Recently, I consulted a consultant to help me tidy up my web page and set some business goals for 2016. But after laying out my array of projects and pursuits (there’s the dream business, the mindfulness workshops, the poetry workshops for adults in literacy classes, the writing workshops for dreamers, the book I just wrote that needs promoting, the books I wrote years ago that need promoting, my own writing and  … ) the consultant basically said:

“Honey, you’re a mess. You need to get yourself organized.”

Okay, that’s not exactly what she said, but that’s what I heard.

So, I decided to start by tidying up my office. I’m one of those people who can’t think until I clean up my desk. And to clean up my desk I need to have someplace to put those towers of paper. And in order to find places for those towers of papers I need to clear out some file drawers and cabinets, and so …

That’s when I decided to jump on the bandwagon and join all of my other friends who’ve recently begun tossing out Hefty bags filled with old clothes and shoes and books, and fold their sweaters and T-shirts so they can be stored in the drawers standing up (!) … and I began reading Marie Kondo’s book, “The Amazing Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.”

But does it spark joy?

I haven’t had the time to address Kondo’s suggestions in any global way (see list of projects listed above) but I have taken her message to heart. Kondo’s premise is that we find a quiet expansive period of time and go through everything we own, object by object, holding each one in our hands and asking, “Does this item give me joy?”

Before I began the book, I’d been warned that Kondo, a Japanese tidying expert, might sound a bit nutty, but that I should hang in there.

But truth be told, I fell in love with Kondo’s quirky, obsessive, heart-felt dedication to her work, and I immediately resonated with her prescription to use Joy as the guiding light in her tidying method.

The other hallmark of Kondo’s approach that I love is that the first step in “getting your house in order,” is to discard anything all those items that don’t bring joy.

So, while I’m waiting for a break in my schedule when I can take each item in my office in hand and ask the magic question, I’m starting to discard some of the complicating detritus in my life, anyway.

Out with the old, in with the Joy

Along with a coral-colored sweater, a fork with a twisted handle, and some worn-out shoes, I’m sloughing off Facebook pages. Yes! I have accumulated 7…count them 7 Facebook pages, including 1 personal page, 1 group page, 2 family event pages, 3 business pages!

My personal Facebook page brings me great joy! There I connect with my family and friends—and as long as I don’t spend too much time there, I love reading updates about my loved ones. So that’s a keeper.

The other Facebook page that brings not only joy but deep meaning to my life is my 350 Dreamers page, where I meet with dreamers from around the world, to practice using the power of our dreams to bring healing, love, and light to our world in the face of Climate Change. (Anyone is welcome to join, whether you regularly remember your dreams or not.)

And finally, I really, really love my new author’s page on Facebook. This page is where I offer tips and ideas for increasing joy and meaning in day-to-day life, through working with dreams, writing, and mindfulness.

The upside of Facebook

For me the best part of Facebook is it lets us publish to the world (or at least to our friends and followers) our true values and aspirations. It’s also a place we can ask for support and affirmation and guidance. My author page is where I get to reach hundreds of people and practice honing my message and sharing my best practices for living my best life.

But alas, my other two Facebook pages (they’re gone now so I won’t talk too much about them) just felt like too much baggage. They each served a valuable purpose and brought me happiness once, but now they are just clutter in the cyber-reaches of my mind. So, as Kondo teaches, I thank them for the good they brought me, the connections they nurtured, and I bid them adieu.

And now, I hope you will take a look at my new page, and if it brings you Joy to receive practical, hopeful, original, and sometimes humorous messages in your newsfeed that help you to follow your dreams and live a life of meaning and happiness—please click the LIKE button.

Whatever you choose, I hope you will do it with intention and in the spirit of joy and love.

I’d LOVE it if you’d LIKE my new page on Facebook! It’s all about Dreams, Joy, and Waking Up!

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A Pilot’s Positive Thinking: What the World Needs Now

American AirlinesA typical airplane trip becomes an opportunity to dream together

Seated aboard my first flight to Charlotte, en route to The Bahamas, recently, I heard the dreaded announcement over the airplane’s PA system. Our flight, which had boarded on time, would be stuck on the tarmac for an indefinite period due to inclement weather conditions at our destination.

I could feel the collective anxiety level amongst my fellow passengers increase, as people began checking their itineraries to see whether they would miss their connecting flights.

Some 40 minutes later the pilot’s voice came through the intercom again. This time it was to tell us that we had been cleared for take-off. “There’s just one more problem. Once we land in Charlotte, we might be stuck behind other planes who’ve been delayed as well, so there’s no telling whether I can get you to the gate in time to make your connections.” There were groans of frustration from people throughout the plane, but the pilot wasn’t finished yet: “I know you’re all wondering the same thing: Will you miss your next flight,” he said. Well, he didn’t need to be a mind reader to know that: Of course that was what we were all thinking. But then he continued: “So let’s do this. We have 150 people on board today. Let’s all work together to channel our good karma toward an on-time landing.”

I looked to my left and my right to read the reactions of the other passengers. People, who moments before had been anxiously checking the time on their phones and watches, were now grinning broadly, shrugging shoulders as if to say, “Hey, why not,” or nodding. I for one was game.

Whether this experiment in positive thinking would turn out to be successful or not, the pilot succeeded in shifting the attitudes of all the passengers on board right away.

And sure enough, we made up almost all of the lost time, landed smoothly and safely, and arrived at our gate only five minutes behind schedule.

If one pilot can inspire 150 passengers on a commercial airline flight to improve their attitudes, and get a delayed flight back on schedule, just imagine what we can do personally and collectively with the power of positive intentions.

In 350 Dreamers, a group I lead where hundreds of people from around the world dream together several nights each year for global healing, we believe in this power to use our thoughts and dreams to affect change. What if more and more of us were willing to band together in the name of positive thinking at home, at work, and in wider and wider circles world-wide? Yes, it’s difficult in the face of so many looming problems, but starting small—one plane full of passengers at a time, for example—we can begin to test the results.

Of course skillful action is necessary to complete the picture, but thoughts precede words, and words precede action and manifestation.

In the meantime, I’d like to give a shout-out to one pilot’s example of positive thinking. May he be an inspiration to us all.


For more inspiration in thinking positive, check out a copy of my new book,

Joy in Every Moment.

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