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Quote Unquote: The Power of a Post

The Butterfly Effect*–Social Media Style

The following quote was published in 1973, decades before the advent of Facebook, Twitter, or Instagram. Its importance has multiplied exponentially since then.

“Any word you speak this afternoon will radiate out in all directions, around town before tomorrow, out and around the world before Tuesday, accelerating to the speed of light, modulating as it goes, shaping new and unexpected messages, emerging at the end as an enormously funny Hungarian joke, a fluctuation in the money market, a poem, or simply a long pause in someone’s conversation in Brazil.”

from the essay “Computers” in The Lives of a Cell, by Lewis Thomas

And the moral for today is: 
Post Mindfully

*The Butterfly Effect is the idea that a small change in one part of the world (i.e. the fluttering of a butterfly’s wing) can have a great impact somewhere else entirely.

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Why I <3 Facebook Birthdays

Today is my birthday. But if you’re one of my 1200+ Facebook friends, you already know that, because Facebook broadcasts the news. And I love it! My 8 Facebook birthdays to date have been among my favorites, in part thanks to Facebook.

But the cynics in the crowd will grumble and complain that the cornucopia of well-wishes that pile up on our profile pages on a Facebook birthday are just one more example of the shallow connections fostered on social media, because really, how could any of us truly know all of those “friends”, or even the dozens who post birthday wishes to our profile pages.

Well, sure. But then there’s this.

  1. It really is fun to log onto Facebook and read dozens of birthday wishes, even if I haven’t actually met every well-wisher in the bunch. (Really, I’d like to.)
  2. Lots of those greetings actually are from people I deeply love and care about. And lots are from people I care about but rarely see, so it’s a treat to hear from them. And lots are from people I’d love to get to know more. So thank you…every one.
  3. And even better–on the 364 days that are NOT my birthday–FB reminds me that at least 3 or 4 of my FB friends are having their birthdays. And I get the opportunity to send some birthday love their way. And that feels good, because I know I’ll help add to their Facebook-Birthday glow.

And it could be even better:

What if in addition to reminding us each day that several of our friends are having birthdays, FB reminded us each day that there are several people among our friends who we should APPRECIATE each day!

Facebook could send out daily  “Thank-A-Friend” suggestions using some random algorithm–just as they now do when they suggest people we might want to add as FB Friends, or FB groups we might like to join.

But why wait? In the meantime, we could just do it ourselves. Decide today to choose three people from your Facebook Friends list and post a message on their page saying why you appreciate them.

If the people lead, maybe Facebook will follow.

Let’s get the Facebook love flowing. Share this post on your timeline, and tag three friends you appreciate, and tell them why.

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The Life-Changing Magic of Deleting My Facebook Pages

Recently, I consulted a consultant to help me tidy up my web page and set some business goals for 2016. But after laying out my array of projects and pursuits (there’s the dream business, the mindfulness workshops, the poetry workshops for adults in literacy classes, the writing workshops for dreamers, the book I just wrote that needs promoting, the books I wrote years ago that need promoting, my own writing and  … ) the consultant basically said:

“Honey, you’re a mess. You need to get yourself organized.”

Okay, that’s not exactly what she said, but that’s what I heard.

So, I decided to start by tidying up my office. I’m one of those people who can’t think until I clean up my desk. And to clean up my desk I need to have someplace to put those towers of paper. And in order to find places for those towers of papers I need to clear out some file drawers and cabinets, and so …

That’s when I decided to jump on the bandwagon and join all of my other friends who’ve recently begun tossing out Hefty bags filled with old clothes and shoes and books, and fold their sweaters and T-shirts so they can be stored in the drawers standing up (!) … and I began reading Marie Kondo’s book, “The Amazing Life-Changing Magic of Tidying Up.”

But does it spark joy?

I haven’t had the time to address Kondo’s suggestions in any global way (see list of projects listed above) but I have taken her message to heart. Kondo’s premise is that we find a quiet expansive period of time and go through everything we own, object by object, holding each one in our hands and asking, “Does this item give me joy?”

Before I began the book, I’d been warned that Kondo, a Japanese tidying expert, might sound a bit nutty, but that I should hang in there.

But truth be told, I fell in love with Kondo’s quirky, obsessive, heart-felt dedication to her work, and I immediately resonated with her prescription to use Joy as the guiding light in her tidying method.

The other hallmark of Kondo’s approach that I love is that the first step in “getting your house in order,” is to discard anything all those items that don’t bring joy.

So, while I’m waiting for a break in my schedule when I can take each item in my office in hand and ask the magic question, I’m starting to discard some of the complicating detritus in my life, anyway.

Out with the old, in with the Joy

Along with a coral-colored sweater, a fork with a twisted handle, and some worn-out shoes, I’m sloughing off Facebook pages. Yes! I have accumulated 7…count them 7 Facebook pages, including 1 personal page, 1 group page, 2 family event pages, 3 business pages!

My personal Facebook page brings me great joy! There I connect with my family and friends—and as long as I don’t spend too much time there, I love reading updates about my loved ones. So that’s a keeper.

The other Facebook page that brings not only joy but deep meaning to my life is my 350 Dreamers page, where I meet with dreamers from around the world, to practice using the power of our dreams to bring healing, love, and light to our world in the face of Climate Change. (Anyone is welcome to join, whether you regularly remember your dreams or not.)

And finally, I really, really love my new author’s page on Facebook. This page is where I offer tips and ideas for increasing joy and meaning in day-to-day life, through working with dreams, writing, and mindfulness.

The upside of Facebook

For me the best part of Facebook is it lets us publish to the world (or at least to our friends and followers) our true values and aspirations. It’s also a place we can ask for support and affirmation and guidance. My author page is where I get to reach hundreds of people and practice honing my message and sharing my best practices for living my best life.

But alas, my other two Facebook pages (they’re gone now so I won’t talk too much about them) just felt like too much baggage. They each served a valuable purpose and brought me happiness once, but now they are just clutter in the cyber-reaches of my mind. So, as Kondo teaches, I thank them for the good they brought me, the connections they nurtured, and I bid them adieu.

And now, I hope you will take a look at my new page, and if it brings you Joy to receive practical, hopeful, original, and sometimes humorous messages in your newsfeed that help you to follow your dreams and live a life of meaning and happiness—please click the LIKE button.

Whatever you choose, I hope you will do it with intention and in the spirit of joy and love.

I’d LOVE it if you’d LIKE my new page on Facebook! It’s all about Dreams, Joy, and Waking Up!

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Lonely – Together (CV)


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What is the antidote to loneliness?

No, the answer to loneliness doesn’t involve going to a party, hopping onto Facebook or taking a trip to the mall. The antidote to loneliness is solitude.

Solitude is more than simply being alone. True solitude involves getting still and quiet with yourself. This is a difficult skill to learn, especially in a society that increasingly values noise, constant movement, and quick connections through social media.

To learn true solitude takes practice. In my personal and professional work I teach people the art of listening to the self through dreamwork, writing and mindfulness.

When you learn to be still and quiet you discover something extraordinary. You are truly and deeply connected … to everyone and everything.

To build solitude into your life:

  1. Begin and end each day with a few moments of internal reflection. Start slowing down an hour before bedtime. When you close your eyes to enter sleep practice meditative breathing by inhaling slowly to the count of four, retaining your breath for a count of four, exhaling slowly for a count of four, retaining the breath for a count of four, etc. In the morning when you wake, lie in bed quietly for a few moments and reflect on your dreams and sleep before beginning your day.
  2. Take 20 minutes a day to spend time alone. Unplug the phone, turn off the computer, and avoid any distractions. Be in nature if you can, or sit quietly in mindful meditation.
  3. Learn Proprioceptive Writing. This is a ritualized form of writing that offers a simple and profound system for learning solitude and deeply knowing the self.

“It is good to be solitary, for solitude is difficult; that something is difficult must be a reason the more for us to do it” –Rainer Maria Rilke

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