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Ancient Wisdom and Modern Science Confirm The Healing Power of Dreams

“An unremembered dream is like an unopened letter from God.”

The average person dreams from four to seven times every night. That means that by the age of 80, they will have had between 116,800 and 204,400 dreams. However, most people are confused and mystified by their dreams, and as a result they largely ignore them. When asked why they don’t pay attention to their dreams, many say dreams are too complicated to understand, or that most of their dreams are nonsensical at best and disturbing at worst.

But while dreams may have fallen out of favor in modern Western cultures, people around the world have long known that dreams can help them in down-to-earth, practical matters. In fact, an ancient quote posits that, “An unremembered dream is like an unopened letter from God.”

This traditional wisdom, is now backed by scientific research. Dreams have been shown to help with everything from emotional regulation to increased creativity. And studies show that working with dreams in a therapeutic environment can help people gain insight into problems and issues as well as heal from the loss of a loved one, or recurring nightmares caused by trauma.

In addition, dreamwork promotes concrete, positive changes based on deep understanding of the dream. People from all walks of life, from artists to scientists, have credited dreams with major inspirations and breakthroughs. And everyday people regularly receive guidance about physical health, interpersonal relationships, professional problems, and more through working with their dreams.

As a Certified Dream Therapist and as an individual who has benefited greatly from my dreams for years, I am passionate about helping others learn to listen to and understand their dreams. Toward that end, I am offering discounted dreamwork sessions (in person, by phone or Skype) all summer long, as well as a new ongoing “Listening to Dreams” workshop series that begins on Aug. 20th. For information on individual dreamwork consultations or workshops, please visit me at CLINIC Alternative Medicines or view my web site http://www.thirdhousemoon.com.

 

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Q&A: Working to Understand Dreams

Q: Do you have any suggestions for how I can work to better understand the messages contained within my dreams?

Signed,

Seeking Understanding

A: Dear Seeking,

Did you know that in my other life I’m a poetry teacher? Yes, I teach teen mothers, and other young adults and adults in literacy programs. My students have had a wide range of educational experiences—well, not such a wide range, really. Their experiences range along a narrow band of really bad encounters with the public school system. They have a great deal of trouble spelling some of the most basic vocabulary words, like through and maybe, and knee. And it’s my job to introduce them to the works of Rosetti and Whitman, Plath, and Poe.

I had no formal training in how to be a teacher when I first set foot in a classroom, so I stood clutching my folder of poems before a room full of teens whose babies were downstairs in the daycare, or whose pregnant bellies peeked out from of the unbuttoned waistbands of their jeans.

I decided right away to skip the whole “what do does this poem mean?” discussion. Shakespeare’s “wandering bark,” Dickinson’s “mechanical feet” going round on their “wooden way” were baffling to my students—as they were to me the first several times I read them. Instead I asked: “What does this poem make you feel?” and then “Oh, really? What in the poem makes you feel that way?” After a while I might press further: “Any idea why someone would have written about all this stuff?”

Oh, but you were asking about how to work with the messages in your dreams, right? I guess it was that word work that got me thinking about teaching, because that’s technically what I do for work. And work is hard and I don’t want to work, I want time to play and experience life. And I definitely don’t want poetry to turn into work. Poetry is mystical and mysterious and beautiful and totally accessible as long as no one asks me what it means and as long as I don’t ask anyone what it means.

So, to answer your question, Dear Seeker: Put your feet up, get yourself a drink with a paper umbrella in it. Stop working so hard. A dream isn’t something to decipher like a message tapped out in Morse Code; it’s the creative musings of your inner poet wooing you with sweet somethings.

But you want to know what it’s saying? So, listen.

Z Tell someone your dream. Your cat will do if there’s no one else around, and if there is no cat, talk your dream into the voice recorder on your phone. Let the images, the colors, the quality of the light, and the sense of movement in the dream wash over you. Notice how you feel. Which parts make you anxious? Which parts make you sigh? Where in your body do you feel it? Let yourself sink into a state of wonder. Allow your curiosity to be piqued. Marvel at the view.

Z Write the dream down, slowly. That’s another way to listen deeply. Grab some color pencils or crayons and sketch it. Wait for the message to unfurl like a morning glory opening to the sun.

Z That might be enough …. but if not … go ahead and dive into each image. Associate and amplify to your heart’s content.

 Z Find a dream group or a dream therapist. (Okay, that’s a little shameless self-promotion there, but a dream therapist has to eat, too, right?).

Z And since I am, after all, a poetry teacher…why not try writing a poem from your dream. You can find instructions elsewhere on this blog by clicking here.

Dreamily yours,

Tz…

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Want to learn more about your dreams? Contact me to find out about upcoming dream groups in western Massachusetts, or individual dream sessions by phone, Skype, or in person.

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My Dream Business is Growing

“We grow great by dreams.”

Woodrow Wilson

Dreams have a new home on Main Street in Northampton.

Dreams have a new home on Main Street in Northampton.

My dream business is growing … and that’s good news for me and you!

Dreams on Main

I have new office space in downtown Northampton, at CLINIC Alternative Medicines, 98 Main Street.

More Dreams for You

This means you now have more opportunities to learn about what your dreams are telling you and how your dreams can help you live a more joyful and meaningful life.

I am available to work with you on your dreams Wednesdays from 3 p.m. to 9 p.m. and Thursdays from 9 a.m. to 3 p.m. in person, by phone, or Skype.

We’ve Got Class

I will now be offering dream classes and workshops on Wednesday evenings. The first one, Dreams 101, takes place Wednesday, July 9, 7:30-9 p.m. Click here for details.

Chaaarge it…

I now accept credit card payments for dreamwork, in addition to PayPal, checks, and of course cash never goes out of style. Take advantage of discounted prices this summer. Visit my Third House Moon website for details.

Book It—Online!

You can now book appointments for dreamwork online by clicking here and choosing Dreamwork from the menu.

Let’s Talk About It

I’d love to hear from you. Contact me with questions, comments, or to set up an appointment.

Clinic Noho Office

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What is dreamwork … and is it for you?

Dreams, especially persistent, memorable, or unusual ones, are trying to get our attention. It’s as though a deep and timeless part of ourselves, the wise self that lives within each of us, is speaking to us through stories and scenes.

Dreamwork is any method (including talking about dreams, writing about them, or creating art from them) that helps us understand these nighttime visions and uncover the information they carry.

Because dreams communicate through unusual, vivid, and arresting images, they can cut through our habitual ways of thinking and propel us to the heart of the matter.

Dreams offer keys to transform emotional, spiritual, or relational issues, and they help us transcend or dissolve blocks and obstacles that prevent us from reaching our full potential.

Through dreamwork we learn to hear and respond to the guidance, insight wisdom, and healing that our dreams offer.

 

It's true, I sleep better in my new, improved, sleep sanctuary.

What Happens During a Third House Moon Dreamwork Session?

Third House Moon Dreamwork session takes place over the phone, Skype, or in person, and lasts for an hour.

The session takes the form of a safe, structured conversation in which I ask you questions to help you connect with the images and actions of your dream.

Rather than interpret the dream, we listen and pay attention to ourselves and the dream to receive its messages with surprising ease.

When you have an “Aha!” moment—when you see or feel what the dream has been trying to tell you, we know we have found the gold we’ve been mining for.

I believe that it’s not enough to leave the dream on the pillow—our goal when we work together is to find the right action steps to take based on what we’ve learned from the dream.

After the dreamwork session is complete you will step into your waking life empowered by your dream’s messages.

It's true, I sleep better in my new, improved, sleep sanctuary.

How Do I Know if Dreamwork Is For Me?

Third House Moon Dream Consultation session would be right for you if:

  • You want to learn from your dreams, but you have trouble remembering them;
  • You’ve ever woken from a dream and felt like something important just took place but you don’t know exactly what;
  • You’ve woken from a dream that you’ve had many times before and wondered why it keeps coming back or if there’s some way to make it stop;
  • You’ve had a dream so scary that you didn’t want to go to bed the next night, or are hoping you won’t have another scary dream;
  • You’ve had a dream that you just can’t forget—and can’t quite figure out, either;
  • You are curious about dreams and want to learn more.

It's true, I sleep better in my new, improved, sleep sanctuary.

What Are the Benefits of Dreamwork?

When people work closely with their dreams they often find that creative blocks dissolve, they gain new insights into questions about work and relationship issues. People also learn to aid in the healing of physical symptoms and emotional pain through dreamwork.

Other benefits of regular dreamwork include heightened intuition and sharper insights. Dreamwork can also help children and adults heal from nightmares.

What Do Others Say About Dreamwork with Tzivia?

“Tzivia is particularly effective at applying aspects of the dream to possible waking life experiences or challenges. … I have had many “Aha!” moments when a previously confusing aspect of my dream became suddenly apparent and clear through her suggested possibilities.”

 

“I’ve learned to sharpen my own dream deciphering skills and become more familiar with the nuances of my personal interior dream language through participation with Tzivia as an unparalleled guide into the realm of the unconscious.” 

 

“Through my dream work with Tzivia, I have been humbled and inspired by the power of the dream as a continually available motivational resource for spiritual transformation, personal growth, creative expression, and overall wholeness.” 

 

Summer Dreamwork Special:

Contact me to sign up for a dreamwork session for June 15-July 15, 2014 and receive a FREE ThirdHouseMoon Dream Journal.

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Lonely – Together (CV)

Solitude

Image by Lady-bug via Flickr

What is the antidote to loneliness?

No, the answer to loneliness doesn’t involve going to a party, hopping onto Facebook or taking a trip to the mall. The antidote to loneliness is solitude.

Solitude is more than simply being alone. True solitude involves getting still and quiet with yourself. This is a difficult skill to learn, especially in a society that increasingly values noise, constant movement, and quick connections through social media.

To learn true solitude takes practice. In my personal and professional work I teach people the art of listening to the self through dreamwork, writing and mindfulness.

When you learn to be still and quiet you discover something extraordinary. You are truly and deeply connected … to everyone and everything.

To build solitude into your life:

  1. Begin and end each day with a few moments of internal reflection. Start slowing down an hour before bedtime. When you close your eyes to enter sleep practice meditative breathing by inhaling slowly to the count of four, retaining your breath for a count of four, exhaling slowly for a count of four, retaining the breath for a count of four, etc. In the morning when you wake, lie in bed quietly for a few moments and reflect on your dreams and sleep before beginning your day.
  2. Take 20 minutes a day to spend time alone. Unplug the phone, turn off the computer, and avoid any distractions. Be in nature if you can, or sit quietly in mindful meditation.
  3. Learn Proprioceptive Writing. This is a ritualized form of writing that offers a simple and profound system for learning solitude and deeply knowing the self.

“It is good to be solitary, for solitude is difficult; that something is difficult must be a reason the more for us to do it” –Rainer Maria Rilke

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“Nothing Matters”-The Voice of the Dream

Mom & I up late one night chatting about everything!

One night, during a recent visit with my mother, who is suffering from age-related memory loss, I went to sleep feeling sad, small, angry and frightened over what is happening to her. This is the woman I have known all my life as a smart, cultured, loving and generous being. And now she has trouble remembering the names of her closest friends, how to calculate a tip, and what errand she left the apartment to run.

That night I dreamed that I was telling a friend that “Nothing matters.” There wasn’t much more to the dream than that.

I woke feeling oddly reassured, but also confused. Could the dream’s message be true? “Nothing matters,” sounded nihilistic and hopeless in the light of day.

I brought the dream snippet to Justina Lasley of the Institute for Dream Studies. “It’s just a little dream,” I explained, almost apologetically, before we began our dreamwork.

Justina led me in an exercise in which we engaged in a dialogue with the dream.  Justina asked questions and I responded in the voice of, and from the perspective of, “Nothing Matters.”

Here is an edited transcription of that conversation between the Dreamer and the voice of Nothing Matters:

DIALOGUE WITH Nothing Matters

Where do you reside?

High in the clouds.

What are you?

I’m a lighter view.

What is your purpose?

To hold everything.

Why?

To help it make sense.

To whom?

Individuals.

Why do you care?

I love them. They are burdened.

Why?

Because they are attached to all that happens.  They’re on a roller coaster with ups and downs.

How can you unburden them?

I remind them it doesn’t matter.

Why would people do anything if nothing matters?

They do things anyway. They have to do them more lightly, with less attachment.

Does it have to do with enjoyment rather than purpose?

The enjoyment should be higher.

How do people get to understand and not resist?

When things start coming apart—then they see it. When you see it from a high perspective, what looks like coming apart on the ground, looks like a pattern of flowing, unified movement.  It‘s neither good, nor bad. It just is.

What is your worst enemy?

People being blind. Not seeing me.

What causes them to be blind?

They are so individual and separate.  They cling and hang on.

What are they hanging onto?

Meaning. Their own self-importance.  The ego.

What does matter?

Connection, the big picture. What they can’t see.

How can they understand it?

They need to trust it and feel it.

How would you teach that?

By bringing them up here with me so they can see for themselves.  It’s a helpful view.  A loving view.  It would help them tolerate things. I’d tell them to think back and forward as far as they can.  Play with perspective.

But I’m losing my mother. I feel devastated, angry. It feels like the end of the world!

Nothing is lost. You are always loved.  You are part of everything and so is she.  Just breathe, relax, and trust.   I know it is hard to do that without a mother.

Where do I find my strength?

It’s inside.

I feel empty.

Close your eyes and let go. Little by little you will understand.

I need to come to your perspective.

I will find you in your dreams and bring you up here so you can see.

Mom and me.

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Corner View — Orange (Dreaming in Color)

Orange Colored Sky

For days, it seemed, my thinking had been fuzzy; my mood detached. My dreams had been hard to “catch.” I wasn’t writing — that would require focus, which I didn’t have.

Then, dreamed I was in a kitchen so small and narrow that my hips brushed against the bead-board cabinets on either side of me. I had to turn my body slightly to shimmy through the room from the back door past the refrigerator on one side, the stove on the other.

I began to take a closer look. The floors were gleaming white, all of the appliances were new.  Bright yellow, red and orange tiles, strategically placed, decorated the stove, refrigerator and walls.  There was also a red pinstripe running horizontally across the appliances. “I have kitchen envy!” I exclaimed.

I narrowed my focus, looking intently at those tiles. The orange color drew me in. I looked at it with such interest — as though I were trying to place the exact shade on a color wheel. I noticed not just the tint, but the tone and energy that seemed to emanate from the simple fact of this sunny orange hue. I feel unaccountably happy, delighted even by this color.

Even awake, the memory of that orange made me smile. I grabbed my copy of Robert Hoss’s book, Dream Language, in which he presents an in-depth study of colors in dreams. In a chart in the back of the book I found that orange has to do with feeling friendly, welcoming, enthusiastic, outgoing and adventurous. Nothing like how I was actually feeling in the days before I had the dream. But then I remembered that a therapist with whom I once did dream work used to say that dreams were often a few steps ahead of our own growth and development.

So I moved into my day hopeful that the clarity, focus and optimism from my orange-filled dream was just a little ways down the road. Maybe I’d even encounter it that very day!

[from DR Aug. 2 2010]

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